Dear Ann Landers: I am a 30-year-old single woman and am currently dating "Peter," who is 36 and in the process of getting a legal separation from his wife. We have been seeing each other for four months. Peter is a great-looking guy, successful and charismatic. I'm not much to look at, but I am a good person, and Peter often tells me he loves me and wants to marry me.

We live about two hours apart, and I see Peter every three or four weeks. I don't have his home phone number. I can only reach him at work during business hours. I have no idea what his address is.

I'm sure you get the picture, Ann. I'm worried that Peter is just stringing me along. I have no way of knowing if he is divorcing his wife, and I'm not sure how long I should wait before finding out. I guess the real question is, at what point does a woman go from hopeful to stupid -- and have I already crossed that line? -- Don't Want to be His Mistress in Florida

Dear Florida: You say Peter loves you and wants to marry you, but you don't have his phone number and you have no idea where he lives. You ask if I get the picture. Yes, I get the picture, but I'm afraid you don't. My advice is plain and simple: STOP SEEING THIS MAN. He's stringing you along. Period.

Gem of the Day: If you want to measure a person's honesty, watch the way he or she adjusts the bathroom scale.

This story appeared in The Daily Herald on page A10.