In fact, it’s not uncommon to feel down during the holidays. In fact, according to National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI), a 2021 study found that three in five Americans feel their mental health is negatively impacted by the holidays. This is especially true when we have lost loved ones, felt lonely, experienced financial stress or just gone through a tough time.

The holidays also happen to fall during a time of year when many are experiencing the “winter blues” even before winter officially begins. Less daylight and the cold weather can be contributing factors to depression. Add those to feelings of loneliness or grief and the holiday season can be really difficult.

But, even so, the fact that many are struggling during the holiday season can be a call to action for others. As we’re helping others, we reap the mental health benefits, just like they do. This is the perfect time to reach out.. There may be family members, neighbors or friends who are feeling down and could use a phone call, a handwritten card, a treat dropped off at their home or a visit. Check in and ask how they are doing.

Making connections through social activities can help ease grief and loneliness. If you are feeling down, try to get out to a family member’s home, even if you’re not feeling up to it. Feeling connected can do wonders for our mood. Other ways to have social experiences are church services, neighborhood activities, volunteering at a local food pantry, city events or even inviting a couple of friends over to watch a movie. If you know someone else who may need some social time, invite that person to come along.

Older adults who may be alone and unable to get out of the house often are especially vulnerable to isolation. Is there anyone in your neighborhood, place of work, school or community who may need a friend or someplace to go for Christmas dinner? Again, reaching out will help the other person as well as ourselves.

Joining in on volunteer opportunities can bring some joy into our lives. There are a variety of local organizations that help others during this time. Some local ideas include American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Utah, United Way of Utah County’s Sub for Santa, The Refuge Utah, Tabitha’s Way Local Food Pantry and Community Action Services and Food Bank.

Most importantly, don’t feel guilty for not feeling merry and don’t fear that you’re missing out if you skip that party this year. There are times in our lives that are just plain hard. It’s okay to not jingle bells or decorate cookies. Sometimes, what is needed is a bit of a break.

During this season, let’s resolve to seek out those who may need some extra light and warmth. If you are one who is struggling, it’s okay to let others know that you might just need a little extra of that light and warmth this year.