Wedding planning and etiquette can be stressful not just for the bride and groom, but for the entire bridal party. A rehearsal dinner, usually held a night or two before the wedding, is a perfect time for the main couple to relax with family and friends and kick back for a short time on the cusp of the wedding itself.

These ideas help make the rehearsal dinner an occasion to remember.

WHAT IS A REHEARSAL DINNER?

This party traditionally is hosted by the groom or groom’s parents, sometimes even without a rehearsal. Of course, the bride’s parents also can join the planning.

The rehearsal time, mutually convenient for celebrant and the wedding party, may be a prelude to the first greeting of out-of-towners. The wedding party gathers over dinner or dessert to relax, chat and celebrate the bride and groom. It is a time for everyone to meet or renew acquaintances, discuss details and amp up enthusiasm for the nuptials.

Like all bridal events, it should reflect the personality and style of the couple and their families – from food to guests to location.

WhAT KIND OF PARTY SHOULD IT BE?

Depending on budget and bridal party preferences, the dinner can consist of anything from a sit-down restaurant meal to leisurely fun with takeout Chinese food or delivered pizza. Creative and personal locations, themes and menus make the event memorable. Themed parties like a luau, picnic or Mexican fiesta are great ideas.

WHO SHOULD YOU INVITE?

This party is usually attended by the bride and groom, the wedding officiant and his/her family, and members of the wedding party and their spouses/families. It also may be just for adults. Casual dates are not usually invited. This also may be a perfect time to invite guests just arriving from out of town for the wedding. The couple, more relaxed than on the wedding day itself, can chat and catch up with their closest fans.

WHAT HAPPENS AT THE DINNER?

This smaller grouping lets people mingle and get to know each other better. Guests can go over last-minute details, personally toast the happy couple and visit more intimately before the ceremony and reception. The bride and groom can give thank-you gifts to the wedding party and thank everyone, including parents, for their participation and support.