We all want to help prevent suicide, so let’s remember an important first step in trying to help someone who may be having suicidal thoughts and feelings: talking. This may feel awkward or uncomfortable. It may be the difficult thing to do. We may not know what to say. But it could possibly save a life.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Many people are uncomfortable with the topic of suicide. As a result, people rarely communicate openly about suicide. Thus, an important public health problem is left hidden in secrecy, which can hinder effective prevention efforts.”

The month of September is National Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month. Anytime is a good time to reach out to help others, but this month is a time to renew our resolve to reach out to others and talk. Saying the word suicide — asking a friend or family member if he or she is considering suicide — is one way to reach out.

“Talking about suicide is one of the best ways to prevent it,” according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. Talking about it should always include messages of hope, healing and help rather than messages of shame or accusation.

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention offers some tips on how to talk to someone who may be thinking of suicide. “First of all, realize that someone opening up in this way is a positive thing, because it’s an opportunity to help,” it states.

Then, let them know you’re listening. Reassure them that you are taking what they say seriously. Show your support. Make sure they know you care. Encourage them to continue talking, and continue listening to them. Express curiosity and interest in what they are saying. Ask them about changes in their life and how they are coping.

If you suspect they’re thinking about suicide, be direct. It’s OK to ask, “Are you thinking of ending your life?” Don’t pass judgment. Reassure them that you care and they can continue to talk to you. Tell them help is available, and you will help them get that help. In fact, free and confidential help is available immediately by calling 988. Of course, if they are in immediate danger, stay with them and call 911.

There are many more tips about talking to people who are struggling at afsp.org. But, even if you don’t have these tips available, it’s important to simply show you care, to listen and to talk.